Developing self-control AND inspiring self-expression
This is of the biggest challenges for anyone working with children, whether you are a parent, teacher, coach/martial arts instructor ...
And it's also one of the BEST things we can do for them.
Self-expression without any awareness of how ones actions impact others, without realizing one needs to be courteous and respectful, without understanding the importance of integrity, perseverance, honoring commitments ... can make it more difficult for a person to develop lasting positive friendships and careers.
On the other hand, self-control without any expression of the personality that makes one unique can make life pretty boring.
Every child, teen and adult CAN learn to let their light shine while also first thinking about the impact and consequences of their decisions before they speak and act.
Acknowledge what you appreciate about their personality while also consistently applying consequences for behavior that is not kind or is not safe, and praise/reward behavior you want more of and ways their unique personality benefits others.
Self-control and self-expression together help one become even more awesome!
